It is 2018, and relationships and social media often go hand in hand. Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat has completely changed the way that we date, but is there something as too much social media when it comes to relationships?
In times when updating your Facebook status to ‘in a relationship’ or posting PDA worthy photos on Instagram defines how serious you are in a relationship, YouTube sensation Lilly Singh aka IISuperwomanII shares her views on how much social media interference she prefers in her dating life.
Lilly, who has made a career out of uploading content and has included dating spoofs in her video series, admits that too much social media can be nerve-racking when it comes to building genuine relationships.
The bestselling author said in a video blog, ‘I have so many videos about dating… about dating guys that meet my parents, about my parents not liking certain guys, about how to find Mr right, but when it comes to real life I like to keep dating completely private.’
‘I want to date the old-fashioned way, without social media,’ she asserts.
The 29-year-old actress goes on to reveals some details about the Mr wrong guys she dated. ‘I meet guys and be like ‘you are kinda cool’ but then they end up turning into the guy who really wants to impress me, because I have a following.”
Lilly then goes on to describe another type of guy, who gets intimidated by her personality and ends up showing his prowl by being rude. ‘Once I went on a date and this dude just yelled at the waiter because he just forgot his dipping sauce. My uterus fell out.’
She even has been with someone who was obsessed with his gym routine and how much he lifts weights ( we hear you sister).
However her dating life was not all gloom, as she recalled the time when she found a decent chap on the internet, and admitted to ‘stalking the hell out of him online.’
The How to Be a Bawse author gushed, ‘He was really nice, sweet and funny and I was on his Instagram, and we were really cute. We used portrait mode at golden hour and it was adorable.’
However her fairytale was short-lived. ‘I felt so much pride because obviously I was like, ‘Look at him, he’s so proud of me that I am on his Insta story, on his Instagarm, and he is tweeting about me. I had a really good time with him, until I realised what it was like to see when I am on social media, but sitting right next me.’
Asserting her point that too social media presence can be fatal to love life, she continued, “It occurred to me a few times, when he would do sweet gestures, he would say, ‘should we take a picture of it?’ or ‘should you blog this? This would really look cute on the internet.”
Even while planning a surprise for her, he would tweet it and tag her, which inevitably led her to question, ‘I want to feel like you genuine wanna get to know me and that you don’t want to make this a brand building exercise. Do you love me for me or my following?’
Eventually Lily broke up with the guy because it ‘didn’t feel genuine’ proving once and for all that too much social media exposure is not good for a healthy dating life.
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