By Priyanka Ghura Kuka and Tanisha Ghura Kanani, the co-founders of Not So Arranged
Ever since the pandemic hit last year, more and more singles are turning to dating
sites to help meet potential matches. Today, there are a quite a lot of options for
consumers, if someone is looking for something more casual, most dating apps cater
to them, if they’re looking for marriage there are so many matrimonial platforms and
now if they’re looking for a meaningful connection and don’t want to go the cliched
biodata route, we are filling in that gap. Not So Arranged is for someone looking for
something more serious, without the meaninglessness of swiping left and right or
going through biodatas that don’t tell you whether you’ll be on the same wavelength
as the person.
That being said, the modern dating process has also slowed down. People are
spending more time talking and getting to know each other. Courting is back in,
rather than simply swiping right and moving on to the next profile. By matching
people based on compatibility and personality, we help provide meaningful matches
so this actually helps the conversation flow. When you’re set up with someone who
compliments your personality, there are lower chances of forced, awkward
conversations and higher chances of a long-term connection. We strive to do just
that with the help of a Compatibility Quiz that has been specially designed by a
psychologist who has years of experience in relationship counseling and premarital
assessment.
Virtual Dates – keeping them interesting:
While meeting virtually of course doesn’t feel the same as in person doesn’t mean
we have to keep finding love locked down. We have members who are keen to try
fun things on video dates and are asking us for ideas to keep things interesting on
the second or third date. A great tip is to agree to do something beforehand. It can
be something as simple as having a drink together, attending a virtual concert, an
online class (like cocktail mixing) or a workout or even preparing a meal together –
get creative. Not only will it make for a fun date, but it will also act as great
conversation starters. Even if it’s not the first date, there’s a variety of social
distancing date ideas you can try to get out of a relationship rut during this time.
Also, just because you won’t be leaving your couch for a (video) date, doesn’t mean
you shouldn’t look your best – it’ll help you feel your best too. Get out of those
pyjamas, shower and put on your favourite outfit. Wear that new top you haven’t
gotten a chance to wear since a year, do your hair – it can really help lift your spirits.
You’ll feel great on your date and more like yourself.
